We have been matched with a birthmom since the beginning of April.  She is not due until October.  We have not told our 4 year old about the baby.  We are probably going to tell her around the first of August.  Any suggestions on what to tell her, or how to tell her?  We realize that things that always go wrong, or the birthmom can change her mind.  I want my daughter to be involved in the process, but I also want to protect her.  HELP!!!